Sunday, January 09, 2011

The Giving Discussion

Some very good friends of ours gave our boys a $100 bill today and told them that they wanted the boys to pick where they would like to donate it. So tonight when the boys were going to bed, we had the following discussion:

Me: So guys, who do you think you will give the money that Mrs. Deb and Mr. Pat gave to you?

David: To the orphans

Me: Do you want to give it to the Children's home here or some other program that helps orphans?

David: We could give it here or we could also give it to our church.

Me: Nathan, what do you think?

Nathan: I think we should use it to buy us some orphans.

Me: Nathan, you don't buy orphans. They are people, and you don't buy people. Deciding to adopt a child is an important decision and it takes a lot of thought and a lot of work.

Nathan: Well, I think we should get us some orphans even if we don't have to buy them.

David: Yeah, we should adopt another kid, but can you make sure he is younger than me because I like being the oldest.

Nathan: I think we need to get a girl because we only have one girl in our family.

Me: Guys, adoption is a very serious process that takes a lot of time.

David: Yeah, and when you adopt a child, you don't look at what is on the outside; you look at what's on the inside. can't really do that because...

Nathan: (interrupting David) You can do an x-ray of her to see her insides.

David: I meant that you don't really get to know someone before you adopt them Nathan.

Nathan: Ohhhhhhhhhh...

I think they still have some thinking to do, but I love their hearts. We had a long talk about adoption and the reasons why children go live in a children's home. We have had family members and good friends who have struggled and hurt through the process of adoption, as well as those that we love who have been fulfilled with the process when they were finally able to get their son or daughter in their arms, and we want them to understand that process, although they are still immature boys that don't completely understand where babies even come from. (THAT story is one of my next posts! haha!)

I will let you know what they decide to do with the money.

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